Life Sucks. Be Happy.

The truth that no self-help guru will tell you is…

…you’re right. Life does suck.

There’s plenty of real, legitimate things to complain about.

The world is an awful, dark, depressing place full of evil people who do terrible things to good people constantly.

Pretending otherwise is not helpful in any way.

As a human, you will have bad days. You will witness horrible things. You will experience negativity, sadness, and anger.

But, you will also be given opportunities to reduce suffering in the world, create positive change, and experience true joy and fulfillment, if you’re emotionally mature and mentally strong enough to face the negative, while not being incapacitated by it.

So, be negative, sad, and angry.

But, also, be positive, grateful, and joyful.

Even though life sucks, you have to admit, it’s also pretty damn awesome.

Things Your Man Needs More Than Sex

➡️He needs RESPECT:-

Respect is like oxygen for men. It keeps him alive, in a manner of speaking.  And helps him thrive. Popeye needs spinach. Your husband needs respect. It’s the thing that makes him who he is. It’s almost like a magic serum to his soul. When he feels respected, he feels like he can conquer the world. He’s full of optimism and hope. He can handle tasks he otherwise might not think he can. He’ll care for you better, love you more passionately and see the world through a positive lens.

➡️He needs to know you’re HAPPY and CARED for:-

That old adage “Happy Wife, Happy Wife” is not a myth. It’s truer than we think. When you feel happy and secure, your husband feels happy. He wants to care for you. Your happiness gives him great comfort. When he feels powerless to make you happy, he’ll struggle. Men are natural “fixers.” He may even try to find ways to make you happy or fix your problems. Sometimes he sees your happiness as a direct reflection of him.

➡️He needs to create a LEGACY:-

He needs to know he’s contributed something to his time on earth that’ll live beyond him. He wants to be challenged and inspired but he wants to know what he’s doing will influence others long after he’s gone. He wants to make a difference.

➡️He needs to find healthy ways to LET GO of his anger:-

Men process emotions as anger. Seems strange to me, but they do. They express loneliness, sadness, hurt, or inadequacy as anger.  He might try the “look-at-me-I’m-all-cocky” route and internalize stuff. That only works for so long.  Eventually, he’ll explode. And we’re left scratching our heads thinking “what’s his problem?” One way men can deal with anger is by dealing with things and issues that have hurt them in the past. You may or may not have been involved in the incident.They need to find ways to forgive people who’ve hurt them or they may be consumed with rage and revenge.

➡️He needs time to THINK:-

As women, we need time to feel all the feels. He needs time to think all the thinks. Sometimes I’ll ask my husband a question and he’ll take longer to respond than I’d like. Or he’ll say, “I need some time to process that.” I used to think he was avoiding talking to me or choosing to ignore me, which would really tick me off.  In reality, he’s actually reflecting on what I’ve said and determining how to best answer me.